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The following give a list of articles, ‘snapshots’ of the intended book titles.Simply, they actually convey intended book titles but in form of written articles. They are:
1) Who Are Your Friends?
2) The Most Outstanding Quality Of the Mind
3) A Trip To The World Of Mr. Death
4) GOKIOLI(A neologism from the God kind of life)
5) Certain Thoughts Of The Mind
6) Postulation Of The Sex Arithmetic And The Way Forward
7) Housewifery...Giving the role of home-makers an academic and professional touch.
8) Certain Thoughts Of The Mind
Who Are Your Friends?
‘Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are’.Undoubtedly, this adage is true and used as criterion to assert man’s personality. As a matter of fact, the difference between an individual now and in future is ascertained by the company he or she keeps. What kind of company do you keep?
In our today’s world, people make friends for different reasons and anticipate the best from this venture. Some may seek for happiness while others may seek for encouragement, information or intimacy, their friendship motive. Perhaps, people make friends for encouragement, ignoring support, information, ignoring reliability, intimacy, ignoring dedication. The lists are endless! It can be inferred that most peoples of the world are not really experiencing the completeness of friendship simply because they prioritize their ‘what they want from the venture’ at the expense of others. What is then completeness of friendship? The question can be rephrased as: what is true friendship?
Consider a complete building. A complete building typically comprises of an obviously not-seen foundation, concrete walls, roof tops, beams, pillars, louvers and other essential facilities. Imagine a building without louvers, pillars, roof tops or beams. What do you think will likely occur? The answer to the asked question is analogous to what happens when certain qualities of true friendship are absent. Again, what is true friendship?
Note that when making friends, ensure that the qualities of friendship are salient or exert your ‘good’ qualities to check or balance any discrepancies observed. True friendship is a foundation which is built on by reliability, intimacy, encouragement,’noticeability’, devotion/dedication, support, happiness and information. The foundation is made profound through the appreciation of stated qualities. Also, it is a vital tool necessary for improved network strategy and developmental plans in organizations.
Excerpts of the intended book, titled Who Are Your Friends?
Ihekuna Chimezie.B
+2348062162220
ben4realla@yahoo.com

The Most Outstanding Quality Of The Mind

It amazing how a typical personal computer works: when a particular data or piece of information is inputted, the processor translates the inputted data into a machine readable language and finally delivers it as output through the Visual Display Unit (VDU) or monitor. Similarly, the human mind functions such that when it receives statements (informative creativity), it ‘processes’ (meditates on) them and ‘delivers’ them as ‘outputs’ (services to humanity)
Our modern bridges allow easy accessibility by motorists to cross through what can apparently be seen as ‘the inaccessible routes’. In the same vein, the human mind is bridge between existence and its functionality. In other words, it bridges the gap between things man see and their significance. The question ‘what is the most outstanding quality of the human mind that makes it function similar to a personal computer system and bridge between existence and its functionality?’ comes to focus. The most outstanding quality of the mind is in its spell-outs, that is,
M-Meditating
I-Intensively,
N-Never
D-Declining. Simply, without you, nothing happens!
Excerpts of the intended book, titled The Most Outstanding Quality Of The Mind.
Ihekuna Chimezie B (Mr.Ben)
+2348062162220
ben4realla@yahoo.com

A Trip To The World Of Mr. Death
Do you know the meaning of the acronym MR.NIGER.D? The alphabets respectively stand for Movement, Respiration, Nutrition, Irritability, Growth, Excretion, Reproduction and Death. They characterize living things. However, the attention is the highest (social) animal, man.
Over the years, science, through immense technological breakthrough, has unequivocally depicted the mentioned characteristics as being typical of humans penultimate death. Why? The all-encompassing source of explanations of science is yet to demystify the mystery of death.
We will however take a concise trip to the world known as death. In other words, a ‘snapshot’ would be taken to give a picture of what death connotes. Death may be ‘snapped at’ from two-dimensional perspectives namely the physical (natural) and meta-natural (meta-physical, spiritual) perspectives or viewpoints. They are conviction-dependent.
The natural viewpoint, also known as the physical perspective, refers` to the factors which are associated or causes the ‘cut-off’ of man’s existence. The factors can be explained by two salient concepts namely At-the instant and rate-determined death. At-the-instant death refers to death that occurs at a physical instant. A typical example is the killing of people using sophisticated weapons such as modern guns. By analysis, the term ‘death’ can be seen as the Denial (of) Entities A Thorough Habitation. On the other hand, rate-determined death simply refers to a time-influenced state which gradually wipes off man’s existence. A typical instance is the pandemic effect of the death-threatening HIV on humanity. Therefore, it can be analyzed as Denying Entities A True Habitation.
The meta-physical (meta-natural or spiritual) viewpoint is arguably an extension of the limitation-faced physical viewpoint. Though its efficacy of this dimension is dependent on the conviction or belief of the individual, it is a threshold were different meta-physical or spiritual inclinations can vividly build their doctrinal potency on. In this case, the term ‘death’ can be seen as the Divine Entrance (Exit) from All Thoughts (to the) Higher (from the thought-dominated physical world to the world of timeless freedom of thoughts).
Extracts of the intended book, titled A Trip to the World of Mr. Death.
Ihekuna Chimezie B
+2348062162220
ben4realla@yahoo.com


Postulation Of The Sex Arithmetic And The Way Forward
First and foremost, we consider the phrase ‘Postulation Of The Sex Arithmetic’. This is a postulation which is intended to be theory. It is a ‘computable’ equation that depicts the number of times individuals, irrespective of gender, had engaged before marriage.Interesingly, the ‘computable’ equation has 13 interpretations, representing the sex lives of individuals.
The validity of the equation is dependent on the following statements
1) It can be numerically determined if the concerned individual keeps a sincere up-to-date record of his or her sex activities.
2) It is partly dependent on sex-influenced relationships engaged
3) The first-time sex experience is constant, that is, it has a constant value of man
4) It assumes that the individual would eventually get married by being faithful to his her would-be wife or husband.
Secondly, ‘The Way Forward’ refers to the consequences: insecurity and doubt as unveiled by infidelity, high chances of contracting diseases, pregnancy (the females) before and even after marriage. Also, it explains the ‘way outs’ of the various sex entanglements, the equation-interpreted sex lives.
Inferred excerpts from the intended book, titled Postulation Of Tshe Sex Arithmetic And The Way Forward.
Ihekuna Chimezie B
+2348062162220
ben4realla@yahoo.com

Just A Suggestion
GOKIOLI: A Neologism Of The God Kind Of Life

‘For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whosoever believeth in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life’
John 3:16(KJV)

Our emphasis is on the word ‘everlasting’. Literally, it is synonymous with eternal, forever and timeless. In other words, what the scripture connotes is if man, irrespective of status or culture, can believe in the supremacy of God’s begotten Son, Jesus Christ, he will have the God kind of life; a life that possesses the everlasting, forever or eternal state.
The word ‘everlasting’ as used in this scriptural context derives its root meaning from the Greek word Zoë, meaning the God kind of life_an incorruptible, upright and righteous life. However, there is a conflicting recognition of the word in terms of its usage. How?
The word ‘everlasting’, in this context, is literally ambiguous in the light of the eventual destination of man_heaven and hell. Simply put, ‘everlasting’
can be used in the recognition of man spending his timeless life (eternity) in heaven or hell. It is possible men spends eternity or live an everlasting or eternal life in heaven or hell.
To this day, there is no true English equivalent of the Greek-originated Zoë. Precisely, there is no specific translation of Zoë to English language. Can there be an exact English translation of Zoë?
A suggestion comes into the picture_a neologism (coinage) from the God kind of life. It is an intended replacement or precise (true) translation of the terms used in some versions of the bible; ‘everlasting’, ‘forever’ and ‘eternal’. The coined term is GOKIOLI, meaning the God kind of life or
GO-God
KI-Kind
O-Of
LI-Life.
Therefore, the familiar scripture: ‘For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whosoever believeth in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life now becomes ‘For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whosoever believeth in Him shall not perish but have GOKIOLI’.This is possible only if this neologism is considered. Remember, it is only a suggestion!
Ihekuna Chimezie B
+234806216220
ben4realla@yahoo.com


HOUSEWIFERY
Analogous to mid-wifery, housewifery is a coinage which is aimed at giving the role of home-makers or housewives an academic and professional ‘touch’. It is dedicated to aspiring wives, dedicated mothers and committed housewives. By extension, female celebrities can benefit from the come-to-stay housewifery as it vividly tutors them how to strike a balance between stardom and call-to-duty home-keep.
Housewifery is a term which agrees that the home (a place where the where a family’s recognition is resident) is essential for the continued peace and security of a nation. It is an interest that sees the home as the smallest unit or foundational block of nation building and pictures the woman as the home’s ‘nucleus’. Hence, professionalizing and making academic housewifery is worth considering. Academic housewifery is a curriculum-based recognition which has three major considerations: physical (economic, sexual) empowerment, mental empowerment and spiritual empowerment. Concerned experts; lecturers, academicians or practioners will employ their wealth of experience on these forms of empowerment.
On the other hand, professional housewifery is a recognition and appreciation of a nation’s government incorporating it as one of the ministry of women affairs interest and portraying itself via awarding the most outstanding housewives. The awards given are a time-taken technical exercise devised by experts to evaluate the performances of housewives in various states, communities or localities.
Ponder on these; a true wife is a well-nurtured female or virtuous woman who has painstakingly taken her time to properly nurture herself to embrace patience instead of haste, humility instead of pride, kindness instead of hostility, sincerity instead of falsehood, transparency instead of hypocrisy, education instead of ignorance, spirituality instead of carnality, love instead of hate and fidelity instead of infidelity...
Excerpts from the intended book, titled HOUSEWIFERY
Ihekuna Chimezie B
+2348062162220
ben4realla@yahoo.com




Certain Thoughts Of The Mind
1) Determination without conception is like reaching a destination without intention
2) In youth, we learn but in age, we learn better things we ought to understand in our youth. What an irony!
3) Concrete opportunities, most times, come as disguises. It takes wisdom applying individuals to comprehend them.
4) The school especially at tertiary level should be seen as a platform or threshold where we can decide what is best for us.
5) If LOVE simply means Letting the Offered Value Exist, what value are you really offering to others around you and yourself?
6) You can eat your cake and still have it but you won’t have it the same way you ate it.
7) Perfection is attained when the action of being perfect or making things perfect is demonstrated.
8) Education is the viable means of defining the quality of one’s person, given the right psycho-environmental conditions, actualized by the level of submission the individual yields to the process, learning_an aftermath of it.
9) The only physically sacred, most priced and cherished possession of a woman is her virginity. Without this, she is treated like other women, irrespective of status. Consequences? Insecurity and doubt as unveiled by infidelity and continued fornication and adultery. The way out? A thorough and genuine spiritual overhaul.
Originally an excerpt of ‘the most outstanding quality of the mind’. The statements are drawn from other intended book works by Mr. Ben
Ihekuna Chimezie Benedict
+2348062162220
ben4realla@yahoo.com












Some Articles Of The Intended Book The following give a list of articles, ‘snapshots’ of the intended book titles.Simply, they actually convey intended book titles but in form of written articles. They are:
1) Who Are Your Friends?
2) The Most Outstanding Quality Of the Mind
3) A Trip To The World Of Mr. Death
4) GOKIOLI(A neologism from the God kind of life)
5) Certain Thoughts Of The Mind
6) Postulation Of The Sex Arithmetic And The Way Forward
7) Housewifery...Giving the role of home-makers an academic and professional touch.
8) Certain Thoughts Of The Mind
Who Are Your Friends?
‘Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are’.Undoubtedly, this adage is true and used as criterion to assert man’s personality. As a matter of fact, the difference between an individual now and in future is ascertained by the company he or she keeps. What kind of company do you keep?
In our today’s world, people make friends for different reasons and anticipate the best from this venture. Some may seek for happiness while others may seek for encouragement, information or intimacy, their friendship motive. Perhaps, people make friends for encouragement, ignoring support, information, ignoring reliability, intimacy, ignoring dedication. The lists are endless! It can be inferred that most peoples of the world are not really experiencing the completeness of friendship simply because they prioritize their ‘what they want from the venture’ at the expense of others. What is then completeness of friendship? The question can be rephrased as: what is true friendship?
Consider a complete building. A complete building typically comprises of an obviously not-seen foundation, concrete walls, roof tops, beams, pillars, louvers and other essential facilities. Imagine a building without louvers, pillars, roof tops or beams. What do you think will likely occur? The answer to the asked question is analogous to what happens when certain qualities of true friendship are absent. Again, what is true friendship?
Note that when making friends, ensure that the qualities of friendship are salient or exert your ‘good’ qualities to check or balance any discrepancies observed. True friendship is a foundation which is built on by reliability, intimacy, encouragement,’noticeability’, devotion/dedication, support, happiness and information. The foundation is made profound through the appreciation of stated qualities. Also, it is a vital tool necessary for improved network strategy and developmental plans in organizations.
Excerpts of the intended book, titled Who Are Your Friends?
Ihekuna Chimezie.B
+2348062162220
ben4realla@yahoo.com

The Most Outstanding Quality Of The Mind

It amazing how a typical personal computer works: when a particular data or piece of information is inputted, the processor translates the inputted data into a machine readable language and finally delivers it as output through the Visual Display Unit (VDU) or monitor. Similarly, the human mind functions such that when it receives statements (informative creativity), it ‘processes’ (meditates on) them and ‘delivers’ them as ‘outputs’ (services to humanity)
Our modern bridges allow easy accessibility by motorists to cross through what can apparently be seen as ‘the inaccessible routes’. In the same vein, the human mind is bridge between existence and its functionality. In other words, it bridges the gap between things man see and their significance. The question ‘what is the most outstanding quality of the human mind that makes it function similar to a personal computer system and bridge between existence and its functionality?’ comes to focus. The most outstanding quality of the mind is in its spell-outs, that is,
M-Meditating
I-Intensively,
N-Never
D-Declining. Simply, without you, nothing happens!
Excerpts of the intended book, titled The Most Outstanding Quality Of The Mind.
Ihekuna Chimezie B (Mr.Ben)
+2348062162220
ben4realla@yahoo.com

A Trip To The World Of Mr. Death
Do you know the meaning of the acronym MR.NIGER.D? The alphabets respectively stand for Movement, Respiration, Nutrition, Irritability, Growth, Excretion, Reproduction and Death. They characterize living things. However, the attention is the highest (social) animal, man.
Over the years, science, through immense technological breakthrough, has unequivocally depicted the mentioned characteristics as being typical of humans penultimate death. Why? The all-encompassing source of explanations of science is yet to demystify the mystery of death.
We will however take a concise trip to the world known as death. In other words, a ‘snapshot’ would be taken to give a picture of what death connotes. Death may be ‘snapped at’ from two-dimensional perspectives namely the physical (natural) and meta-natural (meta-physical, spiritual) perspectives or viewpoints. They are conviction-dependent.
The natural viewpoint, also known as the physical perspective, refers` to the factors which are associated or causes the ‘cut-off’ of man’s existence. The factors can be explained by two salient concepts namely At-the instant and rate-determined death. At-the-instant death refers to death that occurs at a physical instant. A typical example is the killing of people using sophisticated weapons such as modern guns. By analysis, the term ‘death’ can be seen as the Denial (of) Entities A Thorough Habitation. On the other hand, rate-determined death simply refers to a time-influenced state which gradually wipes off man’s existence. A typical instance is the pandemic effect of the death-threatening HIV on humanity. Therefore, it can be analyzed as Denying Entities A True Habitation.
The meta-physical (meta-natural or spiritual) viewpoint is arguably an extension of the limitation-faced physical viewpoint. Though its efficacy of this dimension is dependent on the conviction or belief of the individual, it is a threshold were different meta-physical or spiritual inclinations can vividly build their doctrinal potency on. In this case, the term ‘death’ can be seen as the Divine Entrance (Exit) from All Thoughts (to the) Higher (from the thought-dominated physical world to the world of timeless freedom of thoughts).
Extracts of the intended book, titled A Trip to the World of Mr. Death.
Ihekuna Chimezie B
+2348062162220
ben4realla@yahoo.com


Postulation Of The Sex Arithmetic And The Way Forward
First and foremost, we consider the phrase ‘Postulation Of The Sex Arithmetic’. This is a postulation which is intended to be theory. It is a ‘computable’ equation that depicts the number of times individuals, irrespective of gender, had engaged before marriage.Interesingly, the ‘computable’ equation has 13 interpretations, representing the sex lives of individuals.
The validity of the equation is dependent on the following statements
1) It can be numerically determined if the concerned individual keeps a sincere up-to-date record of his or her sex activities.
2) It is partly dependent on sex-influenced relationships engaged
3) The first-time sex experience is constant, that is, it has a constant value of man
4) It assumes that the individual would eventually get married by being faithful to his her would-be wife or husband.
Secondly, ‘The Way Forward’ refers to the consequences: insecurity and doubt as unveiled by infidelity, high chances of contracting diseases, pregnancy (the females) before and even after marriage. Also, it explains the ‘way outs’ of the various sex entanglements, the equation-interpreted sex lives.
Inferred excerpts from the intended book, titled Postulation Of Tshe Sex Arithmetic And The Way Forward.
Ihekuna Chimezie B
+2348062162220
ben4realla@yahoo.com

Just A Suggestion
GOKIOLI: A Neologism Of The God Kind Of Life

‘For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whosoever believeth in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life’
John 3:16(KJV)

Our emphasis is on the word ‘everlasting’. Literally, it is synonymous with eternal, forever and timeless. In other words, what the scripture connotes is if man, irrespective of status or culture, can believe in the supremacy of God’s begotten Son, Jesus Christ, he will have the God kind of life; a life that possesses the everlasting, forever or eternal state.
The word ‘everlasting’ as used in this scriptural context derives its root meaning from the Greek word Zoë, meaning the God kind of life_an incorruptible, upright and righteous life. However, there is a conflicting recognition of the word in terms of its usage. How?
The word ‘everlasting’, in this context, is literally ambiguous in the light of the eventual destination of man_heaven and hell. Simply put, ‘everlasting’
can be used in the recognition of man spending his timeless life (eternity) in heaven or hell. It is possible men spends eternity or live an everlasting or eternal life in heaven or hell.
To this day, there is no true English equivalent of the Greek-originated Zoë. Precisely, there is no specific translation of Zoë to English language. Can there be an exact English translation of Zoë?
A suggestion comes into the picture_a neologism (coinage) from the God kind of life. It is an intended replacement or precise (true) translation of the terms used in some versions of the bible; ‘everlasting’, ‘forever’ and ‘eternal’. The coined term is GOKIOLI, meaning the God kind of life or
GO-God
KI-Kind
O-Of
LI-Life.
Therefore, the familiar scripture: ‘For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whosoever believeth in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life now becomes ‘For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whosoever believeth in Him shall not perish but have GOKIOLI’.This is possible only if this neologism is considered. Remember, it is only a suggestion!
Ihekuna Chimezie B
+234806216220
ben4realla@yahoo.com


HOUSEWIFERY
Analogous to mid-wifery, housewifery is a coinage which is aimed at giving the role of home-makers or housewives an academic and professional ‘touch’. It is dedicated to aspiring wives, dedicated mothers and committed housewives. By extension, female celebrities can benefit from the come-to-stay housewifery as it vividly tutors them how to strike a balance between stardom and call-to-duty home-keep.
Housewifery is a term which agrees that the home (a place where the where a family’s recognition is resident) is essential for the continued peace and security of a nation. It is an interest that sees the home as the smallest unit or foundational block of nation building and pictures the woman as the home’s ‘nucleus’. Hence, professionalizing and making academic housewifery is worth considering. Academic housewifery is a curriculum-based recognition which has three major considerations: physical (economic, sexual) empowerment, mental empowerment and spiritual empowerment. Concerned experts; lecturers, academicians or practioners will employ their wealth of experience on these forms of empowerment.
On the other hand, professional housewifery is a recognition and appreciation of a nation’s government incorporating it as one of the ministry of women affairs interest and portraying itself via awarding the most outstanding housewives. The awards given are a time-taken technical exercise devised by experts to evaluate the performances of housewives in various states, communities or localities.
Ponder on these; a true wife is a well-nurtured female or virtuous woman who has painstakingly taken her time to properly nurture herself to embrace patience instead of haste, humility instead of pride, kindness instead of hostility, sincerity instead of falsehood, transparency instead of hypocrisy, education instead of ignorance, spirituality instead of carnality, love instead of hate and fidelity instead of infidelity...
Excerpts from the intended book, titled HOUSEWIFERY
Ihekuna Chimezie B
+2348062162220
ben4realla@yahoo.com




Certain Thoughts Of The Mind
1) Determination without conception is like reaching a destination without intention
2) In youth, we learn but in age, we learn better things we ought to understand in our youth. What an irony!
3) Concrete opportunities, most times, come as disguises. It takes wisdom applying individuals to comprehend them.
4) The school especially at tertiary level should be seen as a platform or threshold where we can decide what is best for us.
5) If LOVE simply means Letting the Offered Value Exist, what value are you really offering to others around you and yourself?
6) You can eat your cake and still have it but you won’t have it the same way you ate it.
7) Perfection is attained when the action of being perfect or making things perfect is demonstrated.
8) Education is the viable means of defining the quality of one’s person, given the right psycho-environmental conditions, actualized by the level of submission the individual yields to the process, learning_an aftermath of it.
9) The only physically sacred, most priced and cherished possession of a woman is her virginity. Without this, she is treated like other women, irrespective of status. Consequences? Insecurity and doubt as unveiled by infidelity and continued fornication and adultery. The way out? A thorough and genuine spiritual overhaul.
Originally an excerpt of ‘the most outstanding quality of the mind’. The statements are drawn from other intended book works by Mr. Ben
Ihekuna Chimezie Benedict
+2348062162220
ben4realla@yahoo.com
11 MAJOR DECEPTIONS YOU MUST GUARD YOURSELF AGAINST...
In our today’s world, there are certain statements we hear either from the mass media, our peers or other sources which have undoubtedly formed part and parcel of our mindset. As a matter of fact, information we listen to have over the years unequivocally eaten deep form the root of our growing years of childhood and youth to the stable period of adulthood. Consequently, these statements are saliently expressed and understood words of deception which have affected our dealings with people. Therefore, the need to ‘guard’ ourselves form deceptions is at this point necessary. ‘What are the deceptions?’ A question you may want to ask.

Our case study is centered on deceptions that have to do with social interactions involving people. In other words, relationships existing between and or amongst individuals (of opposite sex) and married couples have unarguably been hijacked by the device known as deception thereby truncating the meant-to-be marital bliss and true intimacy that exist. Hence, there are fact_based records of demise in relationships amongst individuals (celebrities inclusive), broken homes, estranged and divorce cases amongst married couples.

At this juncture, it is essential we recognize eleven major deceptions that must prevented to ensure an enduring, a beneficial and blissful relationship. Precisely, we must ‘sieve’ the information we receive as means of safeguarding ourselves from the clutches of deception. The deceptions are listed below;

Deception 1: It is no big deal loosing your virginity

Deception2: It is good to feel the ‘sweetness’ of sex action by engaging different partners into it.

Deception3: The bad girls ‘get’ or end up marrying the good guys (vice versa)

Deception4: He or She has a sexually not-good past but will change, though is still in the habit of flirting

Deception 5: As men, it is normal to give into sexual advances from women, whether married or not.

Deception 6: When there is money, it will be safe to get married

Deception 7: Divorce is normal

Deception8 Love is blind

Deception 9: As a married man or woman, I can still keep an intimate company of bachelor or spinster friends.

Deception 10: Till the right man or woman comes will I become sexually faithful.

Deception 11: Things will change only if I am married.

In a nutshell, to experience a healthy relationship with your spouse, whether married or not, it is paramount you guard yourselves from these blindfolds known as deceptions.

Excerpts from the intended book, titled 11 Major Deceptions You Must Guard Yourself Against…
As Written By: Mr.Ben
FIND YOUR WIFE IN THE NUMBER OF WOMEN



The issue of marriage is primarily choice-driven. Just as it is optional to attain university education, so it is to get married. Over the years, men, out of choice, have fashioned out different criteria to selecting their so-called wives in a bevy of ladies. However, these criteria have arguably not yielded results anticipated as some married men seem not to appreciate the essence of staying married. This is due to the fact that their wives are not really what they are. Only if they could truly find their 'wives' in an arena of women, they would be singing a positive song.

Precisely, men who thought they married wives soon realize that they are in a life-long union with potential 'baby-producing machines' who do not know what it really means to be called wives. What do you expect when the approach by men to this issue is generally trivial? The criteria (what men arguably desire) are unequivocally hard nut to crack in nature because of the complexities involved. People have used several yardsticks such as beauty, financial empowerment, intelligence and other earthly trivialities to 'select' their wives-to-be. The efficacy of men-invented standards are questionable in the light of truly finding a wife in a women-dominated atmosphere. Simply, what men model as typical wife-fits are just the exact opposites!

Nonetheless, most marriage-concerned men clamour for their Mrs. Rights (wives) in a world of surrounded by women. The question 'how do you find your find in a number of women?' comes to focus.

In theory, a complex mathematical problem involves a follow-up of the appropriate method in order to find the correct solution. The issue of finding a wife in the number of women is analogous to this instance. It involves a' specific' approach to finding a right or virtuous woman who can be called a wife. Unfortunately, people deviate from the 'specific' approach and devise arbitrary means (trivial ways) to find their so-called wives. In the first place, what do you expect the outcome will be? Just as the result gotten when an arbitrary approach is used to solve a complex mathematical problem, the same will result when people find their wives using trivial means. What should be the 'specific' approach to find a wife in the number of women?

You were given a time of ninety seconds to select (in a bag containing three hundred balls of different colours with white stripes) the ball; the red ball that has the highest number of white stripes. Remember, there are over eighty red balls with white stripes and the red ball must be picked directly from the bag. If you can select the particular red ball within the stipulated time limit, you will be handsomely rewarded with a cash prize of $2m. What an offer but at the same time, what a difficult one! In the same vein, the issue' finding your wife in a number of women' is a more difficult task. Usually, most people will go about finding the most distinct red ball through mathematically identifying with probability. Granted, you could get red ball white stripes, the likelihood of getting the most distinct red ball is almost uncertain. Although the red ball picked shares similar properties with the distinct one, they are not the same. Similarly, most men have played the game of 'probability' to find their wives. They may succeed in 'getting' the good ones but they (the good ones) cannot be the same as the better ones, though they share some virtues in common. No thanks to the time limit of youthful activeness!

Proverbs 18:22 says 'whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour from God" (KJV). From this, it implies that marriage is a matter of personal decision (compare with the first sentence in the first paragraph). Great philosophers whose teachings are still followed by 'convinced' disciple at a point asked thoughtful questions into the intricacies of what made life, the universe and the entirety of all divine truths peculiar. Hence, they were inspired to postulate and hold onto 'believed facts' and subsequently had students (followers) who believed in them. In the same vein, the 'specific' approach deals with seeking the divine presence of God to guide you, providing you with wisdom-fathomed questions with anticipated and resonating sincerity-based answers given by the woman you seem to deem as your wife-to-be. The perspectives in which the wisdom-fathomed questions may cut across include the following:

1) Sexuality( her approach to managing her sexuality; level of fidelity, practically learnt lessons from past relationships, if engaged, etc)
2) Finance/Material needs/Money( money-s pending habit, attention to money matters, how financially and materially supportive she is etc)
3) Emotional/Mental/Psychological empowerment( intellect, goal orientation, ability to establish interpersonal relationships, temperamental adaptation,sociable,tolerate or bear strenuous conditions etc)
4) Spirituality(observing prayers, her in-depth practical knowledge of God's word in terms of application, her level of faith, submission, obedience etc)
Marriage is a union which ought to be seen as an eternity-on-earth recognition. In other words, marriage is an institution whose longevity is dependent on the days on earth of the parties involved; beginning from the time the nuptial knots is annunciated to their dying day. However, many married people are not leaving up to what it ought to be. Why?
Marriage, the union between a man and woman, becoming husband and wife, is in itself longevity-based which must be built on an eternal foundation for its success to be experienced and enjoyed. On what eternal foundation must marriage be built?
Marital success is measured by its longevity. And people who will and/or experiencing a successful marriage are those who are prepared. It is said: ‘it takes two to tango’. A tango is a dance involving two active dance performers to demonstrate it. Without their active involvement, then the tango dance is a failure. Similarly, this accounts for the reason people does not experience successful marriages. They are not actively performing, unprepared or incompetent to demonstrate what a successful marriage is. Therefore, if you really want to experience a successful marriage, it is advisable for you to find your husband or wife in a number of men or women. If you really think you have found your ‘missing rib’ or ‘Mr. Right’, then let us lay the foundation of marital success!
It is interesting to reason that some people marry for trivial reasons and as a result, divorce for trivial reasons. They fail to realize it is one thing to get married and it is a different ball game to stay married. Simply, they cannot afford to stay married_ they do not have practical ideas of staying married. Afterall, a well dug and laid foundation will withstand the ‘burdens’ of a mansion but a shallow and sandy foundation is not expected to withstand the forces of such an erect structure. The reason many people cannot appreciate in its length and breadth the essence of marriage is that they have trivialized their marital foundation (money, sex, sympathy and other material gains) in anticipation that it would withstand marital challenges instead of figuring out the eternal foundation necessary for a successful marriage.
The root of a successful marriage which marriage-conscious individuals must lay is true love. Primarily, true love is an eternity-on-earth value that makes married couples stay married, no matter what ensues. Simply put, true love is the foundation of a successful marriage. It is translated as the longevity of marriage, that is,
True love translates to longevity of marriage
Longevity in marriage=Longevity in (Trust + Communication)
=Longevity in Trust + Longevity in Communication
Trust is simply the Total Reliance Upon Someonelse’s Truths (fidelity, submission, supportiveness, patience, wisdom and so on) and communication is the voiced complement or recognition of trust.
A tentative observation and extrapolation assert: At most, twenty percent of the world’s population that are married are experiencing and will experience a successful marriage. On the other hand, at least, eighty percent of the world’s population is staying married in the light of anticipated divorce, separation, bitterness, regrets and insecurity and doubt.
Ihekuna Chimezie Benedict
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THE STATES OF THE MIND
There are different states that make a country. In other words, a country comprises of several states. Similarly, there are various states that constitute the mind. The nature of the mind is dependent on its states it recognizes.
'The quality of our thoughts affects the quality of our action'. Without a doubt, this is very factual. We become what we think. Of course, the most outstanding quality of the mind is Meditating Intensively, Never Declining. By implication, the quality of our thoughts is manifested in this mind quality and translated as actions. Also important, the quality of thoughts is made possible courtesy of the states of the mind.
As case study, we are considering the United States of America. The US has 52 states (Washington DC inclusive), mainly the northern and southern protectorates. In the same vein, there are different 'states' that make the country called the mind. Just as many states are created in many countries, many states are also created in the mind. Travels from one state of a country to another state of the same country are made possible through the means of convenient system of transportation to surmount constraints or difficult-by-nature boundaries. This is akin to the transition of one state of the mind to the other through the boundary known as decision.
Analogous to the previously asserted northern and southern protectorates of the US, we have mainly the 'upper' (positive, greater) and 'lower' (negative, lesser) dimensions of the mind. In the 'upper' and 'lower' dimensions, there are several states but for convenience, we are considering (each) nine states. Nonetheless, more states can be 'created', added. For the 'upper' dimension, we have: faith, success, joy, abundance, health, love, security, truth and wisdom. Also, we have for the 'lower' dimension fear, failure, pain, poverty, disease, hatred, lies, stealing and folly.
Transition from one state of the mind to the other is dependent on the quality of decision made which is a function of the most outstanding quality of the mind. For instance, if an individual wants 'travel' from the state of folly to wisdom, then such a transition would have to be made lucid via a made-decision that greatly depends on the rumination over, thought of and illumination on (identities, associated with Meditating Intensively) the state, folly, the individual's residence in terms of benefits, limits and practical potencies. By evaluation, there is a movement (decision) that surmounts challenges or oppositions in reaching the state of wisdom.Eventually, the state of wisdom will voice herself in action! Undoubtedly, this is made possible by the complementing Never Declining quality of the mind.
Chimezie Benedict
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Chimezie Ihekuna
+2348062162220
Ben4realla@yahoo.com
The article vesion of the intended book, titled WAHT MUST BE CONSIDERED FOR A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE